Girls are like a crockpot. It takes them awhile to get warmed up. God created our daughters to respond sexually by what they hear and how they feel about his words. That’s why romance novels, even Christian romance novels, are such a big draw for young women – women period! Chic flick movies, daytime soap operas and nighttime TV drama series are just as tempting. Remember the show, “To Catch A Predator?” Why did the young woman respond to a total stranger’s email request to meet up with her? It’s not because he sent her a selfie of his penis or that he promised her great sex. It’s because he wooed her with romantic words and enticed her with seductive phrases. Words have power! I share with teenage boys that girls can kiss for days – not really, but they can sure make-out a lot longer than a boy can. His body won’t let him kiss without responding quickly – remember, he’s the microwave. Ding! She’s just getting warmed up – she’s the crockpot. Kisses do that for a girl – especially French kisses. They emulate intercourse. I tell kids, “Kisses are precious and you only get one first kiss and it’ll be one you’ll remember forever.” Teach your kids to guard their kisses. Steve Harvey suggests to women that you shouldn’t let a guy kiss you for 90 days – 3 months. He says that on a job site guys don’t get any benefits (a raise, health insurance, 401K, etc.) for the first 90 days – why do women give guys benefits so quickly? Help your daughter plan her first kiss – role play it. I’ll share with you what I did with my daughter the week before going to the Prom with Billy. As parents we have to be our kids prefrontal cortex and help them plan ahead. Our kids can enjoy healthy friendships when we empower them with skills. You need the skills first! You can do this!
